My Support Forums - View Single Post - *sighs* Please reply. I'm in need of some support... *triggering*

(JD) · Jun 17, 2009, 01:26 PM

(((PUPP)))) It's obvious you are really overwhelmed and struggling. All those self harming behaviors you listed prove that... you don't really want to do those things...you really do want something to change your life though.

You can't choose your family. Not sure I would want anyone else's though either. lol
You aren't responsible for their actions or behavior, however stupid or ignorant it may be.
You can begin to take control of your own responses though, and work to ease the impact of family pushing any buttons you may have.

Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YES!

You are not a horrible person because of what others suggest (if they do.) You are not unworthy just because... of anything! Self harming behavior is coping mechanisms pure and simple. When you find other ways to cope, healthy ways that you can find through CBT for example, then the self harming coping will lessen. From self harming to self caring. It can be done.

I'm not putting you down here, only offering suggestions that when you are able to think and work on them, will help you, ok? Try eliminating the words that are negative such as "can't."
Do thought stopping or countering out loud when they sneak into your mind or mouth.
Think about what you thought when you said "can't" (or other negative) and see if you can rephrase it. Saying "I can but I don't want to" will make a big difference over time. No, no one wants to live through bad experiences, but to say you can't puts you in the hole at the start. You deserve more. You have great potential imo because you are working on it simply by posting here. Keep going! You're on the right path!