I have been married for 27 years and had an affair for 2.5 years. It officially ended 6 weeks ago, but in reality was over 5 months previous to that--I just didn't know it. I haven't told my husband and I never plan to. I'm looking for support as I put it behind me and seek to rebuild my marriage (restore and improve it).

I have been researching methods of moving on quickly and breaking the emotional tie that was forged during the affair. I bought a few books and worked through them which was helpful. I began to journal a few pages daily which I immediately destroyed each time. Now I have settled on focusing my efforts on controlling my emotions/will/thoughts so that my emotions won't overpower me when I think of him.

Any thoughts are welcome.