Many issues, but primarily we were inexperienced lovers at the start. We were not good communicators in this area, neither one of us took charge to identify any problem. We just went along in our life doing a good job at parenting, caring for each other, but never developing a passionate love. Now she has this feeling that it didn't happen after all these years so how could it happen now. We were joking that we almost need to be brainwashed or drugged to help us see each other as someone new. She sees me as her family man, provider, nurturing friend instead of a passionate, romantic, wild lover.