Mine weren't either when I came all the way out. It took time for them to become adjusted, witness me as me, and come to feel and participate in my life. Some came along quickly, some slowly. One of my sisters still has problems but she's a bit of a butt hole anyway.

Someone told me once that it took my whole lifetime (at age 23) to come to terms with my sexual orientation, why would I expect everyone else to be totally comfortable overnight? Especially family!

Since then, I try to be gentle with them and be a guide and teacher. After all, it's foreign to them. I politely insist upon honest and respectful discussion. Learning how to do that can be done. To thine own self be true.