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Jun 18, 2009, 11:30 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2007
Posts: 204
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Originally Posted by Shangrala
BT~
You have begun to walk your own path, which is fantastic.
Your first step, which was the most difficult, was removing yourself out of your parents home. Despite the manner of occurrance, the first step is always the hardest, and you have succeeded that.
Offer yourself the acknowledgement that you have begun your own journey and continue to focus on your own path and refrain from other's interference.
Try and not concern yourself of what other's may/may not be thinking. If you allow yourself the distraction of the opinions of others to cloud your direction, then you are sure to yeild to your own destination.
Stop concerning yourself over the fact if you are doing everyone else right.
The song by Ricky Nelson, "Garden Party", states it all..."you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself". If you remain true to your own self, the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
Your statement:
Do you see what I mean? I need to know what money I am spending and what money is still mine. If I am paying board, not only do I not know what money is mine, but I am certain that I will not be paying my way.
It would seem to me that you should already know what money you have and how it is being budgeted. How can you not? It is YOUR money. This confuses me.
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I guess because I am paying board that they are saving for me, it's kinda like putting money in a money box or a money pig . . . whereas I want to be paying my way so that I am not a burden on anyone.
I also want to know for sure if it's going into a money pig. So far it always has been, even though they have said it's not.
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If you are expected to pay board....doesn't that cover those very expenses, which are the bills, etc., that you state you are 'planning to pay', anyway? Therefore, you know what that money is spent for? I fail to see the issue with that. Regardless if it is approved by your mom, or not...it is something YOU have intended, anyway.
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No, it doesn't . . . not if they are simply saving the money for me for later on. The point of me paying board apparently is so that I don't have enough money to spend on junk food, etc, and that i will be forced to get a job.
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Umm....isn't this exactly what your parents had done for you, as well? I'm compelled to ask....What is the difference?
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There is no difference.
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You are therefore determined?...."because" you antisipate the return of the very same money that you not only feel you somehow have no control of keeping track of?, but also, what you state you intend to utilize for what you 'should be' spending it for in the first place....!?!
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I don't know what you mean by this. I'm just saying that I want to make sure I don't cost my grandparents any money by staying with them.
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I don't mean to sound harsh, but....To hell with what your mother or father have to say about your PRESENT living arrangements....that is between you and your g-parents now. (However, I must include that I hope that at some point you and your parents can make restitution for past occurrances).
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I agree completely.
Thanks for your advice and support.
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