Dotbar;

There may come a time when you can tell you husband about it but, I don't think now is that time. You first need time to heal and get your thoughts together. I've been married to the same woman for 36 years and for 29 I have been faithful the first 6 years were not good I was not faithful X2. She knows about it and has come to accept it and heal, she still gets a bit nervous when I counsel or am friends with other women.

I always tell her, "honey, I love you and if I didn't I'd be gone." Life is too short to be unhappy. I'm not the jealous type either and she knows that.
She has a couple of male friends and she knows that I am at the point in life that if she wants to go......get to steppin' cause I have more years behind me then I got in front of me. Would I be hurt, yeah for a while but, I would get used to it. I can bounce back from anything.

Put things in perspective before you say anthing, think about what it would cost in emotional and mental health.

Good luck,