Welcome to PC!!

It sounds like you want to tell your family so you can have their support. But it sounds like they might not be able to be supportive.

There are other ways of getting support though. Of course your T and meds. But there are free support groups thru NAME and of course you can get tons of support here at psych central. I have. I feel very supported here.

Did you call your pdoc (meds provider)? If the effexor is giving you such bad side-effects he/she needs to know right away.
Please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.
Good luck on your trip!