Hey Saluki
I actually deal with those kind of feelings with my boyfriends frequently. Like we'll be watching a movie (Garden State), and he says "Why don't you dress like that more?" about Natalie Portman in her polo shirts. Or my sister just got her ears pierced again, so she has two holes in her ear lobes. I personally don't like it, and Lovie says "Oh, I think it looks good on girls." And it was just a rush of those feelings -- "I'm not good enough for you? I thought you said I was perfect?? Does that mean you dont like me the way I am and want me to change...?"

But its a double edge sword. He rarely tells me what he likes and dislikes, especially when it comes to me. I rarely get compliments from him. I have no idea what clothes he likes me best in (even if I wear polo shirts, I never get a "You look nice today"). So, at times, I appreciate knowing what he likes and dislikes -- except when he likes things that I dont have/do/am or dislikes things that I do/have/am (grr... he perfers shorter hair? EXCEPT on me???)

Oi vey, Saluki. I understand! <hugs> Relationships are for the devil! Except when we're enjoying ourselves, lol

Take care
,
Ro