Rhap~
I understand what you're saying..however, I think perhaps I wasn't clear enough, as this isn't exactly about providing another necessary space (smothering another)....but more along the line of the "competition" of another woman to whom your mate may/may not express interest in?

Allow me to try another approach....lol.

Q: If she knew that she is already everything to the man in her life and he is completely satisfied, therefore isn't going anywhere...What would be the purpose for her need to seek competition? Why would she be seeking that need to be satisfied?

A: Could it be that it isn't a matter of knowing that he isn't going anywhere, but rather, a matter of knowing that she can sustain the competition (another woman who he may find attractive), and to be acknowledged for it by her man?

Gawd..I think I may be confusing myself here....lol..And if I'm confusing self....Lord knows how y'all must definately be confuzzled by now....LMAO.

Shangrala