Hey Shirley,

Just wanted you to know I'm in your corner!! I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping things go well. but please think about this... no matter what happens-- you are not a bad person!!

Have you heard the saying " those you have nothing to hide- hide nothing"--- sounds like your husband is trying to hide quite a bit!! like in this statement:
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He's paranoid that I'm going in his house alone, because my son used to have a key that he kept on his lanyard with his lunch card. He's changed the locks and won't let the kids have a key while they're at my place. He used to accuse me of going and stealing mail out of his mailbox.

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Oh my gosh your ex- sounds very much like my mother here:
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He tries to paint himself as this perfect man without any flaws, full of every redeeming quality there is, and it sickens me.

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I can so understand that feeling-- I grew up with such phoneyness-- it sucks-- I'm so sorry your going through this. We're all here for you-- think of all of us right behind you when you're there tomorrow-- we'll be there in spirit! Take care and keep us posted.

Mandy