You know Salukigirl I'm the same way. I think men like doing these things on purpose. I know men look, but I don't think they need to stare either. I tell my boyfriend when he's around me not to stare because I get mad. For me I have trust issues with men. I was married to a man for 10 years and he would always make sexual comments about other women to me. My self esteem was so down that I completely shut myself off from him. I have noticed that when I look at a man and get caught the men get upset, and start saying I don't have this, or I don't have that. I don't even say anything about it. I do feel that if my boyfriend thinks that he needs to cheat, then he can have at it because I told him if it ever happens that it will be the end of us. I just won't tolerate something like that. I have been with my boyfriend so long it feels like we are married. I hope you have a good day.