How utterly and covertly demoralizing to think to require by order of the court that you should receive his approval to respond to the kids cold or allergy or insect bite. Does he think only upon a tsunami is it ok to let you have carte blanche to minister to thier needs and problems? They've lived this long and so have you so you must being doing something right- even in the absence of a volcanic eruption in Wisconsin. "life threatening" indeed! He threatens the very spontineity that makes human beings relationship-oriented. He speaks in the clinical language of human once removed .