My husband is and has always been very attentive. This has changed over the years, in the beginning I took these gestures of love as an insult. "I can do it myself!". So I guess that in these terms he would be concidered a "yes-man" although he certainly has his own opinions.

I don't understand the concept of "too easy". All relationships take a great deal of work to keep them healthy. I don't feel the need to compete with other women just to believe that my husband is worth keeping. I'm not jealous because I trust him completely. I just don't need the drama to keep my marriage interesting.

I understand what you're saying although I've never understood it. About 25years ago my cousin was recently divorced with three kids under the age of 4. She is intelligent and very attractive. The man she married was not an attractive man, had the personality of a box of rocks, couldn't hold down a job and treated her like dirt. I introduced her to a man that was a gentleman. He fell madly in love with her and treated her and her children like royalty. After they had been dating a year my husband and I were getting ready to move and she said once we left she wasn't going to see him any more, he was "too nice". I told her that the dumbest thing I'd ever heard! Too nice! If there's no chemisty I get that, you have to move on. I told her if she wanted to date the same losers she had been before she met him she didn't deserve him cut him loose and someone will snatch him up. They've been married for more than 20 years. Saddly I suspect that the reappearance of his younger, just as pretty ex-girlfriend without children, showing an interest in him somehow made him more appealing.