I'm hoping someone has some insight here. I'm 38 years old and having some major marrital trouble. In therapy and randomly during the course of every day I think about my mom. She died when I was six and I have almost no memories of her at all. In fact I have almost no childhood memories. I know that at no point in my life was her death sufficently dealt with. I've probably had less than 2 hours of conversation about her in my whole life. It hurt my dad so bad that he couldn't discuss it. I'm also told, of course I don't remember, that my little brother who was 18 months at the time recieved most of the attention after moms death. I'm also told that my first stepmom was a little hard on me. in my adult life I have had major insecurities about holding on to women. Not attracting them just holding on to them. I've prdominately been single. I used to drink way too much. I've relied far too much on internet porn. I've slept with a married woman. I've always expected my relationships to end. Emotionally I've stuufed everything in the closet. Out of sight out of mind. Can I attribute my relationship insecurities to the handeling of my mothers death or is it not that simple?