he is old, he has cancer, he is frail and not the same scary person
we hold in our memories....as long as we don't carry on a lengthy conversation but then again he is not well enough to do so......
still can't send a card with all the "flowery" niceties but i will call
and wish him a good day at least.
we have come to the point where we recognize he is still a human being
and try to keep neutral.

but there is my H who is a wonderful father to our sons. For HIM I will celebrate with gratitude that our sons were raised with a father who likes to "double date" with them and their wives.