So you like physical affection, just not sex?
I can understand how people can feel used when having sex,
you know . . . you do give something of yourself to your
partner . . .

I too fear loneliness.
Well I also feel it in the present. I have that social phobia thing.
It's not a lot of fun, and combined with the fact that I don't have a great job,
plus no direction career wise at the moment, I have similar feelings to yours about finding a partner.
Occupation is very important to women.