I'd like to key off of a combination of Kathyanita's and Fayerodey's ideas.

Perhaps by increasing the sense of safety for so many who benefit well from that, we might simultaneously afford some greater lattitude for some of us who seek out levels of conversation which are too much for others for whatever of a variety of valid reasons. I agree with Pat in feeling a need to be able to have "harder" conversations somehow, without diminishing it for others, or by their sensitivity having our experience diminished by them.

To expand on the lifeguard on duty feeling that is vital to some, others of us seek out something more like a beach with a "swim at your own risk" sign on it. By entering we could perhaps be agreeing to a greater level of responsibility for self care as to triggering etc?

Hope I've expressed that clearly enough to mean something. Anyway, I sure appreciate what you're doing with this thread. I welcome the opportunity, invitation to get together on this idea as a community. Pretty cool. Thanks.

sqrl.