Hi Babysteps,

Saying 'no' when we catch ourselves down a mental path we don't want to go is wonderful.

As is, thinking about the consequences of letting our minds go just anyplace, and not practicing on our focusing.

... the consequences could be things like using drugs, or spending money one doesn't have, or saying things that weren't thought out properly to someone and hurting them unnecessarily, or not accomplishing an important task, or missing work needlessly, or could be any result that is unwanted...

Thinking ahead about the things that might happen when we lose control may be what one needs to gain control, and begin focusing on the here and now...

The snapping thing is great, it doesn't have to hurt you, just a little snap to remind you to get back on course.

All of this is our own biology, so if you find it's more difficult, a good conversation with your Dr. may help you also. Sometimes there are practice drills you can use, or sometimes there may be a diagnosis of ADD or something workable.

Whatever it is, don't fear. Try some simple techniques to gain your focus and practice it every chance you can when you find you are not.

There are many good books out too... and if you ever wanted to really practice the discipline of being mindful ~ as in mindfulness ~ there is alot about that also.

Try meditating, as this is an excellent place to start practicing awareness of yourself. There are videos and books about this also, and you could even go to classes at your local college, etc, or adult center, or some temple perhaps, for some training. Meditation practices are usually free in communities, so try and hook up, if you like that idea. All ages are welcome to practice meditation.

Ten to one, you will love that. It's so relaxing and eases the mind of stress and the body just feels so good afterwards without all that stress running thru it.

Peace and Calm to You,
Night
xoxo