(((Blue))) as humans we have a difficult time putting ourselves in someone else's position, especially if we haven't been in a similiar situation. I would imagine that these people are grieving the loss of a loving, beloved parent and your words sound harsh to them.

If it makes you feel any better I completely understand what you're saying, although thank God not what you're feeling. My brother is the only other person on this planet that understands the childhood we've lived and the experiences we've had. We can communicate without words when discussing things.

There is also the possibility that people have some preconceived notion. It's not always what we say, but what people hear that cause a problem. It's unfortunate that the people you were chatting with were unable to put their own grief aside to understand what you were trying to say.

I was much closer to my father than my mother. When he died I made the comment (to my Aunt, his sister) that I was happy that it happened in this order. She was very angry at first but she did take the time to understand what I was saying. Had my mother died first, my father would have died in inches every day perhaps returned to drinking and I would not have been able to endure that. Is it wrong that I am not as affected by my mother's grief as I would have been by my father's? Probably, but we can't really change the way we feel.