welcome white iris. ask anything you like. we have three teenagers, one about 13 I think, but I can`t talk to her. I am hoping she might post here when she feels safe. The other teens are older & very angry & one is depressed too. They take executive control sometimes so I get some feedback on what is going on with them, but not the 12/13 yo.
I more often find myself in that mouthpiece position with alters closer to my physical age, the body is 59yo. I hate that feeling, but at least you get to hear what they`re saying.
Is your t male ? Could Dee have a problem with that? Even if t female, she may have issues with that. Does she have good reason not to trust adults ?
Just throwing out suggestions here.