I just read some posts on the abuse site and wonder if this is abuse also. I know he has a BP diagnosis and I have stood by him. He did start counseling with me,changed docs and tried new meds. I knew from talking to the psych. doc that until meds were stabilized it would be difficult. Still, I don't believe BP causes someone to go online to have an affair, makes someone lie to someone elses face so they can meet other women for lunch, puts the blame on another person so they do not have to take responsibility, causes someone to constantly state the other person needs help...is crazy...and should be on meds in spite of the fact I am in therapy and have been for a long time and my therapist says I am NOT crazy and do not need meds. and then I do not believe BP causes someone to leave the person they say they love more than anything 3000 miles from home, no one close by and then that person calls and ask how to use a grill and about the play they saw the other night not knowing where I am or if I'm ok. Sorry, I needed to give some of the background, but maybe this is emotional and psychological abuse. I don't know if that will help me knowing if it is because even if it is abuse, that doesn't take care of my immediate problem now. Maybe I needed to know it's not so much the BP as it is who he really is.