fibrorobin,

I agree with lynn, shangrala, and pomegranate. I haven't read any books on divorce, to help me through the same process, or I'd recommend some to you.

I do agree with jerrymichele in that divorce is painful. My divorce has been very confusing, depressing, alienating, frustrating, etc. A whole slew of difficult emotions to work through. Having children complicates the divorce, as my ex and I will always have to work with one another. The best relationship we can have is the healthiest for our young children. My ex and I have tried hard to not put each other down or become angry with one another in front of our girls. That does require more interraction with one another, but the benefit outweighs my inner pain. I don't want my girls to be against either of us, or grow up mistrusting men and/or women.

Very best wishes to you
Shez