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Originally Posted by deliquesce
zen, why don't you just say no?
sometimes ppl with OCD can engage in very black/white thinking, and so it can be difficult to pick up on subtleties. but this aint necessarily an OCD thing - i know many ppl without OCD who become very singularly minded and ignore/don't hear subtle resistance.
if your friend didn't have OCD would you speak up? or would you find another trait to blame? i agree that she is being difficult, but i also think you have a lot of power in this situation and you aren't utilising it.
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I have all of 2 friends my age group. Although one is 10 years younger than I am. The rest of my "friends" are ppl in their 60's or older.
The friend that exhibits OCD traits...etc I find it hard to stand my ground and draw clear and understood boundaries that are respected by her. My worry is that if I do stand up to her and say "no!" she will have a fit and won't deal with me or want to be my friend. I am more of a passive person when I am around her. She is very Type A personality and head strong.
If you know of healthy ways to set boundaries with her and to say no to her when required without making her act out in angry way towards me or abandon me as a friend, I would greatly appreciate it.
