Hi Zen, if you approach her calmly, I know this may me hard for you to imagine but you can use "I feel" statements with her when discussing the issues troubling you. You can say, "I feel like you have no regard for my feelings", or "I feel pressured by you." It's time to stop being passive and learn to say *NO* to her. You're allowing her to make you feel this way. You are the one responsible for your feelings. You're giving away your power to her, and it's high time you take it back. If she is a friend (big IF here), then she'll take the time to listen and hopefully understand. If she doesn't and throws a hissy fit, then you've done all you can do to change the dynamics of this relationship, and it may very well be time to walk away. Just remember that anyone who doesn't honor your boundaries is not respecting you, and they don't deserve your friendship. You're not a door mat, Zen. Please remember that. You can be assertive with her, and by doing so that will be the only way you'll know for sure if she's a person you want to continue having anything to do with. Say, "Yes, I can, yes, I can." over and over and then go do it. Practice saying "No", too, at the same time. Cheers, Zen and take gentle care. Calm