I am sure that your children are feeling very torn right now in the situation that they are in. To them, it might feel like they have to choose between the two of you and I'm sure they dont want to hurt either one of you. But I think, talking with your kids, getting their input and what your doing already is the best way to handle it. Your strong, your a great mother. Hang in there Shirley. I know its hard. I am always here for you if you need. Much love.