I think all this competition stuff is simply a subconcious way of acting out a persons issues. I think a man treating his woman well is great, unless she is taking advantage of it and losing respect of him. He needs to treat her well, but know when he is being used. I use to have that problem of knocking myself out for unappreciative women, (it was more like a boy pleasing his mom), and I learned that they seemed to lose respect for me, (I guess that's why nice guys finish last). Meaning I had to sometimes stop myself from being used for everything they wanted and set definate boundries. In other words, don't say yes to everything and stick up for my self worth. Just thought I'd throw in my two cents worth, since you led this horse to water, lol.