Im sorry to say this...however i think that is the most selfish thing anyone can do. he has some nerve telling you he's gay after four freaking years. How dare he? he has wasted your time. He didnt just figure out he wasnt attracted to women he knew this for a while and should have had the decency to tell you if he said he "loved" you. Give him what he wants and dont be empathtic to him he doesnt care about your feelings at all. he telling you that he rather put penis in another mans butt rather then be with you. very sad. Im soooooooooooooo sorry.Keep strong.dont let it ruin your life. life didnt begin with him and it wont end with him.