Hi Jersey Joe
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Originally Posted by jersey_joe_in_fl
I My psychologist said that he did not want me to look at people through the lens of seeing all people as all "bad" or all "good." This is the hallmark of someone who has borderline personality disorder and this type of thinking causes mood swings, anger, frustration, and depression.
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I don't think that seeing people as all good or bad is a hallmark of BPD, so I can't say I agree with your shrink's opinion on that.
People make judgements about people all the time. We constantly form impressions, etc based on a person's appearance, personality, socio-economic status, level of education, race, ethnicity, etc.
When we are looking to form relationships with others, we use this information to determine which of those people we would like to get to know and which of them we want to avoid.
For example, I generally don't like smokers and/or folks with tattoos and/or excessive piercings. I see them as sort of trashy folks from the wrong side of tracks... and though they might be nice, I don't wish to socialize with them under any context.
Does that mean I am a Borderline?
No, but some people would probably consider me to be a snob, lol. And their entitled to their opinions, just as much as I am entitled to mine, lol.
Anywho... from what I have read about Borderline Personality (see the link below), Borderlines when they have a relationship with someone (whether that relationship is one of family, friendship or a romantic relationship), they have a tendency to greatly idealize and then later devalue the person.
This might be what your shrink is talking about.
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/sym...lity-disorder/
Here is a paragraph from the that article that talks about the idealization/devaluation characteristics of BPD.
Unstable and intense relationships.
People with borderline personality disorder may idealize potential caregivers or lovers at the first or second meeting, demand to spend a lot of time together, and share the most intimate details early in a relationship. However, they may switch quickly from idealizing other people to devaluing them, feeling that the other person does not care enough, does not give enough, is not “there” enough. These individuals can empathize with and nurture other people, but only with the expectation that the other person will “be there” in return to meet their own needs on demand. These individuals are prone to sudden and dramatic shifts in their view of others, who may alternately be seen as beneficient supports or as cruelly punitive. Such shifts other reflect disillusionment with a caregiver whose nurturing qualities had been idealized or whose rejection or abandonment is expected.
Anyway... good luck in your therapy.