(((TUMIgirl)))

I agree with Pom and lynn. I can relate to the pain associated with the realization that your marriage is over, and you're still seeing him regularly. Seeing a counselor, to help you work through your feelings will help. Depending upon your daughter's age and her experience with your separation, therapy for her may be a good thing. It wouldn't hurt.

My children are rather young (4 and 6) and they've adjusted to our separation surprisingly easily. There are inevitable differences in my household and daddy's household. The children pick up on those differences and follow their expected norms. One day, I asked my girls if it was difficult or hard to remember the differences. Their answer: no. They know mommy likes certain rules, and daddy likes it that way. They've accepted that fact. My ex and I continue to communicate regularly, to let one another know what's happening ~ so we're better prepared to deal with possible issues. That's a benefit for all of us (mommy, daddy, and our girls).

My hub and I have been separated for 1 year. We are currently in mediation, which is going very well. We're lucky in that we both share the same goal of minimizing pain and confusion for our girls. Daddy and I still do run into different opinions and strong emotions very occasionally, but we try hard to maintain a sincere friendship. I do love him, and I suppose that I always will. It isn't easy to let go of that emotion, but it does become easier (as time passes) to remain friends.

Very best wishes to you ~ take care!
Shez