My T told me that hugs would not be good for me. That was okay with me even though I know she hugs others. At my final regular session, after 6 years, she hugged me and I was surprised! It was nice. I hugged her again on a happy occasion, outside of the therapy room.

I think the reason she didn't want to hug me is that I wouldn't have been satisfied. I had fantasies of her holding me, of me being little and crying. A regular hug would just have made me feel more needy.

I had 3 other Ts. They didn't hug me either. One said she never touched clients, the second probably didn't either, and the third maybe would have if I asked. She touched my arm once, to comfort me. I was ambivalent about hugs--wanted them but was afraid.