Willow,
I personally think you did the right thing, and I hope now I will do the same,though I struggle with keeping out of things, it seems inborn for me to just get in there and say my piece unfortunately even when it is not wanted, but hey, I keeptrying to get away from the negative side of me.
But doing what you did during this time is probably the best way to go, so yes, I think you did the wise thing

"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON