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Jun 24, 2009, 11:10 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
Posts: 6
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Yes I am back again and want to find out if there is a way all the way from over here in Iraq I can learn to trust my girlfriend of 7 years again. I found out in Feb of this year that my girlfriend had been cheating the whole time we have been together, granted some I knew about and we have worked through, I truly believe because of her childhood she did what she did so I forgave her and she begged me not to leave her so I didn't. I really do love her and still having alot of anger about all that I didn't know. She wants an open relationship and says she is waiting until I get home from Iraq so we can discuss it but she says she is not going to wait 2-3 years for me to "heal" from all the infidelities. She is only going out to the clubs once a month but still goes to other places and drinks which is what always puts her in these situations where she wants to sleep with someone else. I truly understand about attraction and sex and doing it but I quit being a cheater over 10 years ago and I really want this "open relationship" to work but I really need some guidance or suggestions from anyone who has been through something like this. She says to me she has never been in love with someone that really loves her and doesn't have an agenda for that love, I only love her for her. I really have difficulty believing anything she says anymore and I know its hard to rebuild trust when you are 3000 miles away from each other. I want to be able to finish my 6 months here get my butt home and see if I can do this, but I really feel like she is rushing me to "heal"....what should I do please help 
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