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Jun 25, 2009, 09:14 AM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,269
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Originally Posted by abeatofmyown
Im sorry to say this...however i think that is the most selfish thing anyone can do. he has some nerve telling you he's gay after four freaking years. How dare he? he has wasted your time. He didnt just figure out he wasnt attracted to women he knew this for a while and should have had the decency to tell you if he said he "loved" you. Give him what he wants and dont be empathtic to him he doesnt care about your feelings at all. "he telling you that he rather put penis in another mans butt rather then be with you." This was a very inappropriate and rude comment  very sad. Im soooooooooooooo sorry.Keep strong.dont let it ruin your life. life didnt begin with him and it wont end with him. |
It has taken me a whole day to decide whether or not to comment on your post because I'm not one to fight, but I do stand up for what I believe is right. I strongly believe in keeping divorces peaceful except in cases where there's abuse. I think Fibrorobin is looking to be understood and not looking for reasons to hate her husband. She agrees that her husband has struggled with this, as she has.
I agree with Shangrala/Dividebyzero that, you may think you're offering encouragement but it's disguised in HATE. What good do these comments do, but encourage her to feel bad and hate/resent her husband. Most of us here do not want Fibrorobin to carry around festering resentment and hate - that would be hurting her. We want her to heal and realize that none of this was her fault and that he really didn't mean to hurt her or deliberately mislead her. One day I hope she will truly understand that her husband was seriously trying to deny his homosexuality and conform - and none of this was her fault. He waited so long because he was afraid and also he didn't want to hurt her. I also bet that he did love her although not in a sexual way. This is all raw for her right now, but already she is trying to get to a place of understanding, which shows she is a beautiful person. Maybe this is one of the reasons he took this long because she 's a nice person and he was afraid. Your comments added fuel to a smouldering fire.
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Last edited by lynn P.; Jun 25, 2009 at 10:27 AM.
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