Sometimes I think it's a matter of weighing what you see is best for you. I am one to join in and try to help but this time I needed to stay clear. I couldn't see anything I could have said would have been helpful.

It's hard when people start taking sides and not being nice about it. For me this time I wasn't prepared to get in the firing line and often when tempers are running hot getting involved will lead to getting hurt unnecesarily. You can't control someones actions and words can be so hurtful. Apologies can make things better but things will never be the same.

I chose not to get involved this time and I don't feel bad about it. I did what was the best thing for my own peace of mind. I do feel bad that people got so angry, things were said and people got hurt.

I am glad to see that people have apologized and forgiven. Friendships or relationships of any kind are not without conflict or disagreement. People make mistakes. I believe it's how you handle those mistakes that count.

Don't feel bad Willow. I think you did the right thing.
Lots of reassuring hugs for you,
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin