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Originally Posted by Abby
nothing will ever change no matter what she says to me if i simply hold a grudge....even if that grudge is because i feel so vulnerable.
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((((((((((((((((Abby))))))))))))))))
I have had a few ruptures with T...(I think he said we've had 4?? Feels like more than that to me!) There was one in particular where he REALLY hurt my feelings. He just screwed up, big time. He knew he did it, but there wasn't any way to go back and do it over.
We talked about it, and he apologized, and I knew he meant it. I wanted SO SO badly to put my walls back up, and I did for a little while. But I realized he is human, and will make mistakes (which sucks!) and that if I was going to move forward in therapy I was going to have to literally just let it go. And I did.
In a way, I felt like I was "giving in" - but on the other hand, there was nothing else to do. He was sorry, it was over, and we both learned from it. Looking back, I'm glad that I was willing to let it go, even though it was hard at the time, because I couldn't have moved forward in therapy if I hadn't.
Therapeutic ruptures are so hard.... lots of



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