sunny, i am so happy for you that your divorce is finally over! yea!! it sounds like you handled it all incredibly well especially since you and xh are getting along so well. how wonderful that xh is bringing healing into your life. that is a precious gift. i have had the person who did so much damage to me (my sis) apologize and own her stuff. it really does make a huge difference to just know that they realize what they've done.

your t sounds like a perfect fit for you. i've started a book on the inner family systems stuff and i can see why your t thinks it's integral. i find it quite fascinating. i love how you describe the big hug at the end bringing all the parts of you together. i totally get it.