This is one of the reasons why I'm not all that keen on the use of words such as "transference"/ "countertransference" as an explaination of all feelings that occur within the therapeutic relationship. Some unethical therapists may use these words in an attempt to deny responsibility for their feelings and their actions. I think even ethical Ts sometimes use those words to better deal with situations with their clients that make them uncomfortable. Undoubtedly it is a real phenomena, but I don't think it should be used as an excuse for bad behavior or to 'explain away' someone's feelings. One is still accountable for one's actions. I'm sorry that all of this happened to you.