Many Ts don't like to discuss deep things by email. Email is very prone to misinterpretation because you can't see the person's expressions, body language, etc., so it can be best to discuss the hard stuff face to face. Is your T just not responding to your deep issues by email or when you are together, and you bring up a deep issue, does she ignore it then and change the subject, etc.? I think this latter is very different from the email. If she only seems to "ignore" your deep issues by email, then I think maybe it just may be an email problem, and the two of you should have a talk about how email can best be used as an adjunct to therapy. You can get straight how she believes you can most effectively use email with her (perhaps just short connecting notes, or schedule changes, or statements like "I'm really having a hard time with X today, I'd like to talk about that next time"). Every T is different on what how email (or phone calls) works in their style of therapy and with each unique client.

If she is ignoring deep issues that you bring up with her in person, I think that is very serious and needs discussion between you. Maybe she doesn't realize she is doing this or maybe you are misperceiving her words or actions. Maybe she thinks you should deal with X (some more immediate issue) before plunging into Y (a deep, dark issue) and so she brushes you off when you bring up Y. If so, she needs to know you are sensitive to being brushed off and circumvented like that, and it would be helpful to you to have her be more open with you and explain herself, "I know you want to discuss this important issue, but I'd like to defer that until you're more stable on this other item, OK?" Basically, the T should not be afraid to give the client "the time of day". In my therapy, I felt I was brushed aside a number of times when I tried to discuss certain issues from my teen years and young adulthood. Whenever I brought these up or mentioned something from this period, even stuff I felt was kind of critical, T seemed just not to respond, or to "want to go there." I felt kind of hurt and rejected by that behavior, and I started a pattern of not ever mentioning that time in my life, because I felt T didn't want to discuss it and would rebuff me (ouch) if I tried. Finally, one day, one of my ego states told him this whole thing, about being pissed off at him for that era being ignored like that, etc. He was really surprised and had no idea he was doing that. He said he was sorry and he also said he was waiting to "be invited" to explore that with me, and that he was ready any time. So now I know he is open to that, and I can bring it up any time, and he will welcome that. But we had to have a face-to-face talk to get that straight!

Maybe you can have more confidence in your abilities to communicate instead of doing what is "easy" for you. It is easier for just about all of us to put something in writing rather than communicate directly in person. At what point can you transition from making email revelations of your deep issues to doing that in person? That is something really important to work toward! I think we have a need to share and connect with our Ts and tell them our deep issues. By doing this be email, you relieve some of that tension in yourself and desire to share, a tension that would help motivate you in session to share these things. Having shared in email, there is less drive to share in session. Do you know what I mean? Maybe if you held off on the deep sharing by email, this would help push you to share when you are with your T? Could it be worth trying? Maybe you could use the email to set the stage or hold yourself accountable. You could send a short email announcing you will talk about X the next time (a deep issue). And you can ask T to not let you avoid this topic. Then, since it is on the table, you will feel some pressure to talk about it. (Of course, you can always change your mind.)

I hope you will keep trying. So much of therapy is learning to communicate and have a relationship. It sounds like you have made great progress in learning to share some hard things by email. Maybe it's time for the next step now, to talk in person.

Good luck!