SW... I use my email privilages to do this too. Even now that I am able to talk more during the actual session. I will say that I am lucky because my T does not forget. Sometimes she pretends to not clearly remember the details of something...but I think this is her way of getting me to attempt expressing what I wrote.

I'm finding that the things my T seems to ignore in one email, tend to eventually find their way into other emails or are approached from another angle or as part of another topic. Finally, if it is really important to me it eventually gets directly raised by me in a session. Often this process takes months, hence probably why I'm still in therapy after 2 yrs. LOL

If I look honestly at these "ignored deep issues" my T often opens the door during the session for me to discuss them but she doesn't push it. Although sometimes I think I want my T to be more aggressive and push me into talking about something, I'm not sure if this is what I really need. I want to be pushed but when I am I clamp down hard. I think my T's approach is to be patient and let me work my way into bringing sound to what I write.

I've often felt embarrassed by things I've expressed in my email. That is exactly why I wrote them in an email after the session instead of actually saying them during the session. I've often assumed that the reason things didn't get talked about were because my T didn't want to go there or because she was uncomfortable handling them, or because she wasn't interested in them. However, ALL of the thoughts that I have eventually worked my way into raising myself my T is more than willing to discuss and explore. In otherwords my assumptions that she is ignoring or avoiding addressing certain things with me are wrong. She is not the one ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing my deep issues.