I've been seeing him for almost 4 years. He complains how he hates his life and needs his time to do his thing. So everything is going well with that- he goes taking pictures, writing his book, exercising, etc. But now everything he hates about himself, he looks at me and asks why don't I do judo, write a book, he started dating a thin woman and now.... We've been OVER all this. I told him I'd lose weight for me not him and he says that's what all women say and why don't women see that as important, etc. Its making me grumpy. Nothing I do is good enough. And when I DO go do something and tell him what is is, he says he doesn't want "reports". Every aspect of my life he seems dissatisfied with. Its frustrating me to no end! I don't go into his life and say "You should... you need... why don't you.... why aren't you..." GRR Now he's not talking to me.