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Originally Posted by TrespassersWill
What I don't understand is how both my T's have sometimes looked red faced and blotchy with sad eyes like they were going to cry when I have talked about bad stuff. Seriously I don't get it how they look like they are going to cry. Why should they cry? They are just a paid friendship is all T's are if truth me known. I feel bad that nobody would meet up with be just to chat once a week as a friend and I have to pay someone to do that.
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My T has teared up before when we are talking. I think it shows that they are really "with" us, empathizing with where we are at. It does surprise me when it happens, even though I know T cares about me.
As for feeling like you are paying someone to meet up with you once a week for a chat...I think T's are doing much more than that, even though it doesn't FEEL like it. While we are with them, a good T is totally focused on us, thinking of ways to help us move forward and heal, making sure we feel safe, gently pushing us when we need it, keeping everything in complete confidentiality. A friend probably can't provide all of this for us. Friends ARE important, for sure. I love my friends...but it is more of a reciprocal relationship. I am there for them and they are there for me. During the two hours a week I see him, T is JUST there for me.
I HAVE struggled with the "paid friend" concept in therapy, for sure. But I am learning that it is more than that.
