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Old Jun 26, 2009, 04:09 PM
undercover007 undercover007 is offline
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My bf and I are in a serious relationship and we see each other a lot. He's good about calling me every day to talk as well. But I have this really bad problem where if he doesn't answer his phone when I call, I start to freak out and then call him obsessively. I get paranoid that he won't ever talk to me again and for some reason my initital reaction is to just keep calling him over and over which of course annoys him. This only happens once in a great while. But then the other night, he didn't answer his phone and I knew it was his day off. So I called him repeatedly worrying where he was cause I assumed he was going to see me. Then finally around 8pm he calls me to tell me he was at a funeral and that he found out that morning that his step-mom's aunty died so they had to go. So of course he couldn't answer his phone and I dont think he even had it with him during the funeral. Totally understandable. Then he said he was driving back home and he'd call me later. Well he never did call. And I freaked out and called him over n over obssessively. I figured he fell asleep and I knew his phone was on silent cause he tends to do that.. but for some reason I couldnt stop myself from calling him. I even started crying cause I was just upset that I didn't get to talk to him before I went to bed like I normally do. Finally the next day, I called him from like from a different number to see if he would answer and he didnt. I called him from my own number repeatedly and still no answer. He finally called me later that night after work and the first thing I said was why didnt you call me last night?? He said that when he got home he was relaxing and then ended up falling asleep.. which is what I thought. But then I got all upset and pissed off and then he got angry and was like he can't take that anymore. He was good about talking about the issue with me saying that if I keep doing it, it just pisses him off even more when I called over n over. I think I called him like 20 times in a row. He told me its "sick" and that if I just call once, he'll get back to me later. But if i call repeatedly like that, it just makes him not want to talk to me. So I didnt really get to tell him everything I wanted to say cause he said he was angry and that he didnt want to talk anymore. I started getting upset and crying but he said that he'll talk to me later. I got off the phone and then the next day which was yesterday, he didnt call me at all! This time I only called 3 times and texted him "I miss you." But I didn't freak out this time and I just let it go although i really was upset that he didn't call. Now its the next day, what should I do? Just not call him anymore? I'm worried..