Fallen,

OK, I can totally understand why you are upset. At 17 I didn't want my parents involved in my life at all (other than to pay for ****:-). I'm responding from a parent perspective...so you may not share my opinion and that's OK.

This month you are still a minor and if I am reading your post correctly this will be your FIRST meeting with this pdoc, correct? Although you do not seem to want your mother involved, maybe she has to be. At least to initiate and provide her legal consent for him to treat you. Also since it is your first visit, and he doesn't really know you yet, he is likely to be assuming (correct or not) that you are not ready to assume full responsibilty for your own health care decisions.

Here is my parent perspective:

IDK what the actual law says, but as a parent, if a pdoc was calling and giving Rx's to my child without my permission or without me having authorized this service...I would be PISSED!! I am NOT in any way saying that you cannot make good decision regarding your health care. I'm saying this because of my experiences with the health care system. There are A LOT of bad doctors practicing medicine. Personally would want to first meet and check out ANY physician, dentist, psychologist,...etc that was rendering care to my children before signed my off on anything.

It seems to me you have two options at the moment. 1) speak with your mother and allow her to at least come to the appointment with you, if only to sign the paperwork. Or 2) cancel your appointment and reschedule it for next month when you are 18 and legally considered an adult.

At this point if your mother knows and has scheduled the appointment maybe you can just tell her. "Hey, I love you mom, but I don't want you in the room while I am talking with the pdoc." Maybe work it out with her before going. For example maybe she has some questions/concerns about your care or general condition. This month she is entitled to ask those questions. Get her to agree that she will go, shake the pdoc's hand, sign the papers, ask her questions then leave the room so you can talk privately with him. Before disclosing a bunch of stuff, simple ask him if he will respect your right to privacy. If he says no, tell him the bear minimum you have to to get your Rx and go. Then spill everything after your 18.

If your mom is not likely to respect your wishes, then reschedule the appointment for next month and handle the scheduling and paperwork yourself. If you really think your mom is a meddler then, just wait a month and handle everything yourself. In the big picture, what's one month? You can call your old pdoc for an Rx to hold you over if necessary.

BTW, I am going to assume that you pdoc had some legal reaspn for not calling you back promptly and making you go through your T and mom to communicate with him...But after next month, that doctor would be returning my phone calls in a timely manner or he wouldn't be my pdoc. Your entitled to at the very least a call back from his RN or PA when YOU call. I'd be sure to ask about how he typically handles patient calls.