I want to say this in a way that is not coming off as being sarcastic; but, please read the title of my thread. It says "Looking at people through the lens of seeing all people as all "bad" or all "good." The title does not say looking at people through the lens of seeing them as all bad. People like myself who have BPD look at life and people in terms of black and white, good or bad, all or nothing. We value others and can change and devalue them, the same individuals once we see somthing we don't like in them. I encourage you to get some books on BPD. It may lend a deeper understanding of what BPD is for you and others who have it. Since I have a car and go many places, the people in my life are all over the place not just in my neighborhood. I understood what my psychologist was saying but I don't believe you understood. In simple terms, my psychologist was saying that when I have a friend or close relationship with someone, and I have a good rapport with him or her, and this person is always understanding and polite to me, and when someday this is not the case, I can begin to judge them as bad all of a sudden. I don't clearly give the person a chance to be not so understanding or polite with me and that will happen in life. However, when someone is always like that to me, then it is a red flag that I do not have a good rapport which may be beyond my control, and I need to stay away.

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