Hello and welcome Dayley,

I am not one to judge because I really hate to be judged myself so dont worry about me hating you.

If I read your post right, you didnt find out he was married until after the "relationship" started and if that is the case I guess if it was me I would be wondering why he lied to me in the first place. Not telling you he was married is basically a lie. I would also look at it this way, if a man cant be faithful to the relationship he is in - happy or not - how am I going to trust him to be faithful to me even if he was to leave his wife today and be with me. Personally I wouldnt be able to trust a man who withheld that information no matter how much I loved him. I believe all relationships - friendships, dating, marriages - should be built on trust. Without it you really have nothing. I guess I would be too worried about being hurt. I understand the feeling of hating the other woman, but actually she is a victim even though that is hard to see at times. He has lied to her as well. Not all people cheat again if they have cheated once before, however if someone lied to me from the beginning I would not be able to have a relationship with him even though loved him. I guess that is my two cents worth. I wish you the best Dayley.

~Dawn