My bf is going through a nasty divorce where she refuses to let him see their four kids and its breaking him down everyday. His child support is sky high and he is so hard on himself that he can't be the boyfriend he can be just because of the lack of finances and emotionally available when he is preoccupied with the frustration of the divorce and kids. I've told him I love him regardless and asked him to put aside his pride and accept help by asking his mother a loan and hire a attorney. He just won't do it. My concern is how do I take care of my bf in the mist of all this stress. How do I be there for him when he doesn't want to accept help. How do I support him when I watch him break down even though he thinks he's good at hiding his feelings. I've never gone though anything like this before so all this is very new to me. If anybody knows about the laws on child support in the state of California that can help please send them my way.