I agree about seriously considering the having another child bit. My mother was mentally ill & it was no picnic, that's for sure. She did the meds, ECT, etc.--nothing helped. I think her having another child pushed her over the edge. She had this idealized idea of motherhood & got a lot of self-esteem from producing children. But she was incapable of mothering us.

I have a couple friends in my support group (DBSA--Depression & Bipolar Support Alliance) who have had good success w/ECT's & also a couple are on maintenace ECT's every 6 weeks or so & it has helped tremendously.

I don't think it is right to bring in another baby when you are having problems as you described. You need to take care of the ones you have & YOURSELF.