Jen a Divorce that includes kids tend to get very nasty. It will breakdown anyone who's rights are being violated. What I suggest that you do is to be there for your boyfriend no matter what! You may need to do most of the work like finding him a good lawyer and to search up your local states statues and educating yourself and your boyfriend the local laws. Sometimes you may need to be your own lawyer because divorce lawyers tend to cost a lot of money... It can also ruin your credit. A close friend of mine is in the middle of a child custody battle between her ex psychotic husband. My close friend had 3 kids with him and since the divorce it has been an extreme roller coaster. I'm actually shocked to see that my friend still has it together, I guess it is because I've been such a great friend to her
I would also like to warn you about the possibility of your boyfriends ex wife turning her child against your boyfriend. This is called PAS - parental alienation syndrome. Please go to
http://www.paskids.com/ and educate yourself about this serious issue. My close friend's child is suffering from this syndrome as we speak of right now.
Please take some time to watch some of these Youtube videos about PAS.
Hightly recommended to watch!
Demi's Parental Alienation Story
(First part)
(Second part)
Your boyfriend needs you the most right now so be at his side at all times.
I wish you and your boyfriend the finest luck.
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Originally Posted by Jenn1fer82
My bf is going through a nasty divorce where she refuses to let him see their four kids and its breaking him down everyday. His child support is sky high and he is so hard on himself that he can't be the boyfriend he can be just because of the lack of finances and emotionally available when he is preoccupied with the frustration of the divorce and kids. I've told him I love him regardless and asked him to put aside his pride and accept help by asking his mother a loan and hire a attorney. He just won't do it. My concern is how do I take care of my bf in the mist of all this stress. How do I be there for him when he doesn't want to accept help. How do I support him when I watch him break down even though he thinks he's good at hiding his feelings. I've never gone though anything like this before so all this is very new to me. If anybody knows about the laws on child support in the state of California that can help please send them my way.
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