A few weeks ago something T said in our legal meeting slid off me the wrong way and I did not like what he seemed to be saying at all. I kept thinking about this until my next therapy session, and then addressed this at the very beginning. I told him when he said that, it seemed like he was saying X, and it made me feel Y, and is that what he really meant? (Because if so, I was hurt, pissed off, etc.) And he said no he had not meant that at all, and explained what he had meant. And I felt better to know he did not mean that, and relaxed, and all was right between us. He said, "are we good now?" This is something I could not have done in the past. I could not have identified right away that something someone said hurt or angered me (I would have stuffed it inside) and I could not have spoken to them about it to ask for clarification. I would just let stuff fester inside of me and not even know what my problem was when I had vague feelings of unhappiness. Now I can identify my feelings and can seek clarification from my T. I hope to extend that ability to seek clarification (and mend little ruptures) from other people in my life. This is really huge progress for me.