((((((((( Tomi )))))))))

I think we're doing it right. We've learned that each of us has a strong side that has different faces in different situations, and each of us has a sensitive side with all it's expressions. Each facet can trigger the other.

Being strong sometimes shows as stubborness.

Being sensitive sometimes shows as anger.

What I think we've learned about each other, and hopefully we could apply in life, is how to stay connected to the underlying person, regardless of what's said on the surface. One of us may be reacting in fear, worry, best interests and I think we've come to understand that neither of us are "bad people".

I will admit I don't always take my own advice in how to manage conflict, but I think we're learning in practice. I've come to understand that under all statements given, there is a kind, caring, feeling, loving Tomi that gets hurt, tries to help, cares about everyone and even feels alone sometimes.

The same can probably be said for all of us.


"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius